Much Love Mama,
Chiro, Mama and Busy Brain Supporter xoxo
I don't know about you, but I have needed a deep rest for a long time... but I haven't been able to or created the space where I have honoured that. During these school holidays, I set out to purposefully and intentionally slow down, calm myself and connect with my kids again... and gee it has been glorious.
You see, when you are a giving and service profession, it is so easy to fall into permanent giving mode. You give of yourself at work, to your family at home, and then you give to your online community, and all of a sudden you are all 'gived' out.
And that's where I had found myself. I could feel my body beginning to tell me again that if I wasn't careful, I would be back at burnout, and I really didn't want to be back there.
Creating some purposeful calming time was really needed for me, and I'll just throw this out there, it's also really needed for you too probably.
Check out the podcast just released all about the why behind needing a break.
Breaking down the barriers on talking about poo - is really important. Just like bringing the reality of real life working motherhood to the fore, we need to talk about our bodies too, the good the bad and the smelly.
In the WML Lounge I'll be hosting the monthly masterclass on Thursday 30th June at 8pm. I'll be diving into poo, but also, and I think more importantly, gut health as a mum, what it looks like, how to maintain it, and the easy supportive things we can do each day/week/month that will help to create ongoing ease.
In the second half of this year I'll be creating more opportunities to work with me at one day Mama's Retreat's. Coming together with other amazing supports, the Retreat day is designed to learn, move, create, eat good food and connect together. If 1 day dedicated to YOU speaks to your Mama heart and you are keen to learn more join our Burn Bright Waitlist to be the first to hear about it!
Most importantly gorgeous mama, I just...
The idea of having both a career and a motherhood, combined with being able to look after you drives all those mum guilt feels doesn't it.
Like how the hell can we have it all?
The shade thrown at mum's globally for desiring to be both a mother and have a career/job is huge. The way that we have been driven to feel bad for wanting to do these things is notable, and not serving any of us well.
One of the key elements of the Working Mama Reset is that we are able to identify where in our lens of our self we are listening to these stories that don't serve us. And then figure out what really actually does matter to us and how we can get this into our day.
Beginning with this allows us to figure out a different story, and discover the inner truth we have. We can get our intuition back on track, we can listen in to our inner voice, and we can begin to infuse the things that make us happy and joyful into our days.
Figuring all of this out before we begin exploring the 5 Pillars of Healthy...
Most weekends I'm ready to jump into a new big week ahead and really make the most of it. But some of them I don't.
Some have been so rad with our family connection time that I just want to keep doing what we've been up to.
Some weekends I finish feeling like I haven't done all the thing I wanted to, so I'm beginning my week on the back foot already.
Sometimes, I just know how busy the week ahead is going to be, and I just can't face it.
Sometimes each week has a challenge, a child that has separation anxiety, a work colleague that unloads too much on you, a difficult night of navigating 3-6 different drop off and pick up times.
I'm sure you've felt these sometimes too, and probably a couple of others I haven't included. I wish there was a way that I could make all of those anxieties in the pit of your tummy go away. And I can't wave that fairy god mother wand.
But what I can do is show you ways that you can grapple with these feelings, and choose, hopefully, a positive and a...
I feel that as a working mum we are pulled in many different directions, ALL THE TIME.
We are trying to keep on top of our school/daycare checklists, our kids activities, our work demands, our meal prepping, or lunchbox making.... even our own self care routines.
And when we don't have the opportunity to sit and be focused, it can be all consuming. I've listened to a few interviews with Johann Hari around his book, Stolen Focus. I haven't read it yet, it's next on my list.
But the general concept of our attention being stolen with the constant demands we have on our time, and our ability to pull our attention back is key.
I don't know about you, but I often find a pick up my phone to complete a task, and then find myself 5 minutes later scrolling insta and I don't even know how I got there.
Creating pockets of intentional focus can be a great way to get our brain back to a less frazzled state.
The first step for me is to consciously step away from my devices.
To leave it where I...
It's been pretty busy with the launch of my book and all of the awesomeness that goes with that. As part of that level of busy, and because I'm always going to physically be recovering from the chronic stress and burnout, my body has been sending me signals it needs to recalibrate.
This sits squarely into the Self-Nurture concept that we find in the month of May.
If we don't choose to show up for ourselves, who will?
And what are the signals?
Let me share them with you:
1. I began to find my coffee wasn't sitting right - it didn't give me my morning zing, I wanted more and more and more, and it really flattened me out sometimes (this is a sure sign my adrenals are stressed at the moment).
2. My sleep turned upside down. I pride myself on my sleep hygiene, and being able to sleep well is of great benefit. I found that I began waking between 2-4am again with my thoughts running away from me, a sure sign that my system was overloaded.
3. Sugar became my best friend. I'm not a massive...
After the last few years, and if you are in Australia, with the heaviness of the politics etc etc still continuing on, us working mum's need a safe space:
To share our whole self.
To be real and authentic.
To celebrate our awesomeness.
To learn about how to support our self.
To support us when we are challenged.
So the WORK MAMA LIFE Lounge is OPEN again to help to nurture the COMMUNITY, CONNECTIONS and CHOICES that working mama's, like you and I, are calling for right now.
This membership is there to guide you to integrate the elements of the 5 Pillars of Healthy Motherhood... minus the stress and overwhelm!
Each month there will be a masterclass about a topic that matters to busy working mum's.
Beginning with June - why we should check out our poo and what that means about our health (yep... even you coffee addicts out there).
July we will dive with depth in burnout and stress recovery.
August we will explore how I manage time, and ways that I have supported...
You know that feeling, when your heart literally drops to the floor... and then it comes back up again?
Today I was sitting down, kids happily ensconced on the couch watching a movie, and I was having a quick scroll of facebook, when I got tagged in an article about my new book. It was pure click-bait... something I would never have thought coming. Click here.
And my heart completely sank... I mean, do you ever think you will be in an article saying 'Photo exposes mum's huge lie'... me either!
I rejoiced because this article digs into one of the key elements as to why I began Unfck Motherhood and my Work.Mama.Life. journey. To bring awareness to the pressures that mothers are under, and how we need to expose them to allow our mum's to flourish.
Yes, it uses lots of photos from my instagram (including my giant washing pile), but it also grabs onto content that highlights the reality of working mother life.
The more we have...
I mean, can you remember it? How did you wake up feeling?
Once I had kids, the first amazing sleep if I was blessed with a few in a row, I would actually often feel more tired. You know when your kid goes from waking every 2-3 hours to having a good chunk of sleep... and you somehow feel more tired those first few days?
I remember being amazed at how my body had adapted so perfectly to the lack of sleep, and was able to keep on going with all of the things in the day-to-day on seemingly nothing in the tank.
I wanted to share with you a little bit of info if you are naturally getting pretty good sleep, and then you have one of those shockers. You know the nights where you are tossing and turning all night long, and you wake up feeling like you've shot 10 tequila's and have to function again.
When I have one of those nights, I do a few things:
1. I move my body. I be gentle with myself, because I know I'm more likely to injure myself if I am tired, but movement is key to waking...