The Power of Tribe.

Uncategorized Jun 27, 2021

Recently, I spent the weekend away with my glorious tribe of supportive business women, and it was all sorts of fabulous. 

It's been a while since I've been surrounded by the glorious positivity of a bunch of women who are all striving for the most for themselves and their communities.

Unapologetically so!

And it has really got me thinking about the power of tribe.

As mum's, there are so many external influences telling us all of the ways to do all of the things... and this is loud and noisy and overwhelming at best.

Our tribe is sometimes like this.

When it supports us.

When we need enveloping.

When we need encouraging.

It is also sturdy and strong.

It bands behind you in the face of adversity.

It supports you quietly and firmly when it needs too.

Your tribe matters!

Recreating a space and tribe for women to explore this whole motherhood game, and how to exist in this journey of motherhood is so important.

I speak with mums every day who feel lost, and my heart...

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Patriarchy & a Feminist Motherhood

Uncategorized Jun 15, 2021

I hope you are buckled in...

I want to chat about the patriarchy - a concept that I wasn't aware of much before I started deep diving into motherhood.

How does society shape our motherhood, and where this comes from?

How did this become the picture of what a good mother is.... or the perfect mother myth?

Why do we stay there as a society? 

So these are big questions. And I want to just touch on the subjects a little (we do dive deeply into this in the 6 Week Mama Reset). 

Patriarchy is defined as "a system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is reckoned through the male line - a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it."

Just reading this makes my heart skip a little, like who decided the men rule the roost? Who decides that they could hold the power.

I was reminded of this acutely in the motherhood sphere, in the role that an expat mum experienced the...

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Immunity, Stress & Motherhood!

Uncategorized Jun 15, 2021

Well didn't last week hit me for a six. Like literally, I felt like total shit. I had laryngitis, and I had to reschedule patients for the first time in nearly 20 years in practice, cray cray.

Like many of you I'm sure, I pride myself on my general immunity. I'm resilient, I'm strong, and I don't have time to get sick... right!

Well maybe that was the problem last week for me. I hadn't prioritised my down time, and the start of this year has been busy, and a bit stressy too!

For those of you thrown back into Victorian lockdown, I can't even imagine the extra level that this is placing on your stress load.

But why should our stress matter? How does it impact on immunity. Let me give you a little mama lesson!

Immunity is strongly linked to our stress response. When we get stressed, we have this part of our brain called the amygdala which redirects all of our focus to the things we are stressed about. Part of this also causes our cortisol to be released.

Cortisol is a hormone.

This...

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The Amazing Mother Brain

Uncategorized May 30, 2021

I've been reflecting on our amazing brain, and how awesome it is to navigate motherhood with us. So I thought I'd share with you some of the ways that our brain totally has our self.

Before I do that though... a bit of reflection. Because what are those things that society tells us about our brain or our smarts as we progress into motherhood:

  • that we will have pregnancy brain
  • that our memory drops
  • that we can't focus on anything but our baby (because somehow this is a bad thing)
  • that you must love motherhood "because you are a woman"
  • that you can expect to be 'dumbed down' because of it.

Well, let me tell you Mama, your brain is so much more than that, and so are YOU!

Our Amazing Mama Brain 100% has our back. During pregnancy our brain does a pretty amazing think, it shrinks our grey matter down. Don't be alarmed by this, because this is a good think. Our brain goes through a process of streamlining. This occurs in specific areas that relate to social cognition, empathy and...

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Dr Ali's 6 TOP TIPS for healthy motherhood!

Uncategorized May 24, 2021

How can you create healthy shifts in our motherhood experience when life, for many, often feels stressed, too rushed, too busy and way too many tabs open?

Dr Ali's shares her top 6 tips for shifting your internal experience to shape and influence your external experience, that are game changes for both your health and motherhood. 

1. Choose Yourself First

This is one of the hardest parts of health, because as a Mum, once we have kids choosing ourselves is hard. And we've also been told it's selfish. But bringing  conscious awareness and choices to mothering, about your needs as well as those of who you are caring for, is vital.

If you are ready to gain easy tools that make it simple to reclaim, re-energise and discover your sense of self again the MotherHOOD  is here and ready for you!

2. Move Your Body

Movement is more than keeping you trimmer and thinner. It's important for your brain, your stress load, your adaptability and resilience. There are quick and...

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Calm & Loneliness - an emerging epidemic of Motherhood

Uncategorized May 24, 2021

I stumbled across this picture on the weekend, and it got me thinking. It got me thinking about two things...

Calm

&

Loneliness.

 

To me it highlights how, in our society these days, they are so often intrinsically linked for mothers. We often crave calm (or at least those women in the 6 Week Mama Reset and who are rolling into The Mother Hood do), it's that inner silence where we don't have immediate external expectations coupled with our inner to do list seemingly under control.

Yet as mums, reaching for calm can often lead us to loneliness.... to have it we have to be away from what is creating the busy - and this can lead to your loneliness.

We have to be seperate.

Especially when we are in the throes of the first few years. When the often relentless requirement to be mum leaves little time for calm creation... unless we move to a seperate space... where the loneliness can creep in.

Loneliness is in epidemic proportions apparently. According to the Australian Institute...

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Why Downtime matters and how Challenges help!

Uncategorized May 07, 2021

If you've seen my insta stories,  you would know that we have had a long weekend, and we've all been a bit tired. And that's me too.

I don't have a crazy level of go that some have, and I need a reset too. Just like you.

So this weekend I took some downtime to nap and do yoga. We went to Beef Week to look at some cows, and we moved our bodies a little bit. 

I drank coffee and read the paper with my husband, I cooked some yummy food, and I did things that nurtured my soul. A lot. Because that's what I needed.

As mum's, there is a great perception of weakness if we acknowledge that we need rest too. It's not weak. It's human. I applaud you for recognising this about yourself. 

It can be really hard to acknowledge, but also really hard to make it happen. Because the list is never finished. Somehow, trying to forget the list and get it happening is key.... and one way I do that is to write it all down, get it out of my brain, and then this free's up more space to do...

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Why Your Support Group Matters

Uncategorized Apr 30, 2021

I always find myself super reflective on ANZAC Day each year. Like many of you, I have family members and friends who have joined the armed forces and served to protect our rights as Australians.

Having watched both of my grandfathers, and my uncle, and in more recent times some school mates return from overseas postings, the support that they get is extremely important for their ongoing recovery from any trauma they may have experienced.

I'm always full of all the feels, because I feel as a general population, our understanding of the impact this has on our service men and women is mammoth!

And not to devalue this at all, but it also gets me in reflection mode for our mum's too. Because we are undervalued, we are 'just mum's, and we are not working when we are in the home... right???

WRONG!!

One of the ways that I was able to navigate my motherhood through those days where I really wanted to throw in the towel was with my women.

The BF who I could call for any reason.

The...

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Realities of Parental Burnout.

Uncategorized Apr 23, 2021

Well the school holidays are done and dusted, and we are back at the day in and day out routine of life during the school term.

Even if you don't have kids in school yet, the reality is that there are many pre-school activities that take a break during the holidays, and get back to action after this time.

And this roundabout of continuation of routine, the business of life, the mental load... these can all lead to Burnout.

 

Let's take a look at burnout!

Burnout is 'a condition characterised by intense exhaustion related to parenting, emotional distancing from one's children, and a loss of parental fulfilment' (Mikolojczak and Roskam, 2020).

In light of the hectic times that we saw with Covid in 2020, and in some places in the world are still seeing, this burnout of parents, who were expected to homeschool and work especially, it caused a huge increase in burnout. 

Like me... some parents found the decrease in rushing around quite good... but I also as an essential worker,...

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School Holidays Hot Tips from Dr Ali

Uncategorized Apr 07, 2021

School Holiday Mama

Learn and Lead - My Hot Tips!

 

Easter has been and gone, and here we are!! I love school holidays... except for when its chaotic and I'm scrambling. As a working mum, trying to lose the mum guilt and embrace the fun and the relax is really important to me.

We definitely lead a bit of a full throttle life with after school activities, so really try to pare it back for holidays.

But surviving and thriving aren't the same thing, and as I get asked this a lot, I thought I'd share my hot tips on making school holidays a great connection time, not just another two weeks to survive!

 

1. Letting them Lead

You may have heard me ramble on a bit about this, but letting your kids lead the way can be really empowering for them. The movie YES Day is an extreme example of this, one that I totally love, and whilst I've not done the whole day like they do, I do try to weave it in. Giving your kids full throttle on how to lead and navigate something that is normal...

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