As busy mum's, we can easily determine our worth on production... coz that's what we are fed.
We get a lot of outside in influence (yep, all that media, stories from people, even stories from our workplaces), that we can define our worth on how much we can fit into a day.
Have we ticked a certain amount off our to-do list? Have we sent all those emails and answered all those calls? Have we made those appointments? Have we scheduled in the things we need to be doing?
What if there was a different way to determine our worth?
What if there was a way to figure out just how much we matter... that didn't rely on the external influences that drive us.
And further to this, what if we knew how to tap internally, to calm that outside speak and let the inner speak happen?
I remember when I first dived into these concepts of determining my worth outside of external validation.
It felt like something WAY TOO BIG to tackle.
In fact... there are still certainly times where I dive into...
Yo Yo ... you feeling like Blow Up is about to happen. Like one more little thing.... and KAPOW it really could happen.
I've never seen as many stressed out mum's as I do at the end of this year. Coming in with a million things on their to-do list, and no real way to get them all done.
One of my secrets was figuring out how to get rid of some of those things off the list... without necessarily doing them. But, there is also the ability to navigate this level of busy in our body so it doesn't lean into burnout.
What tools can we use to bring us back from that brink of blow up, dial down our stress response, and let our body get that sense of safety that it needs to thrive!
Learning how to unplug our stress bucket is a key way to dial down our burnout factor.
I want you to begin listening in. When you ask yourself this question... what does your inner soul whisper to you?
How can I unplug myself?
How can I gift myself this to do? (is it time, is it a location, is...
What does Chaos look like?
Sometimes it's not just the obvious.
Chaos isn't just running around with our hands in the air screaming at the world (but that can be fun sometimes can't it). Or having a house that is a full -tip... you know those days where the dishes and the washing and all the things are piled up.
Chaos can also be a freeze state. You know those moments in time where everything is so hard that we just do nothing. It's a neurological state and can be a sign of so many things (don't worry too much about the, we'll cover it in the challenge).
Or that we run away from the smallest hurdle, because any other object seems insurmountable to overcome, so best not to think about it.
Chaos can be jumping quickly from one thing to another without properly finishing off one... or working so hard at one thing we become singularly focused and can't do anything else.
Chaos isn't just the crazy.
Chaos has so many levels.
Come and join me to embrace the chaos...
I've been leaning into surrender and rediscovering balance. You may have seen my latest podcast episode about the concept of Surrender... it was a biggie.
When we are busy working mum's, there are often times where we have to make decisions. These can be based upon fear, career, the 'should of' feeling, or just a small inkling of something.
Learning how to lean into values is a key way we can figure out if it is surrender, or perhaps moving towards a sense of balance.
Sometimes surrender looks like stopping something.
Sometimes surrender looks like beginning something.
Sometimes surrender looks like streamlining something.
For the second half of this year, I am striving to provide simple ways we can all find balance again. Balance can be such a difficult word in motherhood. When we are busily working, and creating, and loving on our families hard, we sometimes forget how to love on ourselves.
I want each mum in my orbit to have the capabilities to discover her...
I've just done some research on judgement in mothering, and recorded a podcast about it... and it really grinds my gears.
Over the last few years we have all been trying our best to do all of the things, and it's been a whole lotta hard work. Then we throw into the mix the rise of internet trolls (I mean look at the poor ladies from the ABC who have taken down their twitter accounts just to avoid it), the mum's groups on facebook, as well as the school yard - and there is judgement everywhere!
In my podcast episode I look at how the role of judgement, from an evolutionary perspective, is to create a cultural best practice. And I can totally see that. We all try things a different way, and then we sort of judge what is and isn't working and come up with best practice.
This is wholly different to what is happening in society now. I don't know about you, but the abuse that I see and hear about people's choices is frightening.
I know I've judged people before and learning...
Much Love Mama,
Chiro, Mama and Busy Brain Supporter xoxo
I don't know about you, but I have needed a deep rest for a long time... but I haven't been able to or created the space where I have honoured that. During these school holidays, I set out to purposefully and intentionally slow down, calm myself and connect with my kids again... and gee it has been glorious.
You see, when you are a giving and service profession, it is so easy to fall into permanent giving mode. You give of yourself at work, to your family at home, and then you give to your online community, and all of a sudden you are all 'gived' out.
And that's where I had found myself. I could feel my body beginning to tell me again that if I wasn't careful, I would be back at burnout, and I really didn't want to be back there.
Creating some purposeful calming time was really needed for me, and I'll just throw this out there, it's also really needed for you too probably.
Check out the podcast just released all about the why behind needing a break.
Breaking down the barriers on talking about poo - is really important. Just like bringing the reality of real life working motherhood to the fore, we need to talk about our bodies too, the good the bad and the smelly.
In the WML Lounge I'll be hosting the monthly masterclass on Thursday 30th June at 8pm. I'll be diving into poo, but also, and I think more importantly, gut health as a mum, what it looks like, how to maintain it, and the easy supportive things we can do each day/week/month that will help to create ongoing ease.
In the second half of this year I'll be creating more opportunities to work with me at one day Mama's Retreat's. Coming together with other amazing supports, the Retreat day is designed to learn, move, create, eat good food and connect together. If 1 day dedicated to YOU speaks to your Mama heart and you are keen to learn more join our Burn Bright Waitlist to be the first to hear about it!
Most importantly gorgeous mama, I just...
The idea of having both a career and a motherhood, combined with being able to look after you drives all those mum guilt feels doesn't it.
Like how the hell can we have it all?
The shade thrown at mum's globally for desiring to be both a mother and have a career/job is huge. The way that we have been driven to feel bad for wanting to do these things is notable, and not serving any of us well.
One of the key elements of the Working Mama Reset is that we are able to identify where in our lens of our self we are listening to these stories that don't serve us. And then figure out what really actually does matter to us and how we can get this into our day.
Beginning with this allows us to figure out a different story, and discover the inner truth we have. We can get our intuition back on track, we can listen in to our inner voice, and we can begin to infuse the things that make us happy and joyful into our days.
Figuring all of this out before we begin exploring the 5 Pillars of Healthy...
Most weekends I'm ready to jump into a new big week ahead and really make the most of it. But some of them I don't.
Some have been so rad with our family connection time that I just want to keep doing what we've been up to.
Some weekends I finish feeling like I haven't done all the thing I wanted to, so I'm beginning my week on the back foot already.
Sometimes, I just know how busy the week ahead is going to be, and I just can't face it.
Sometimes each week has a challenge, a child that has separation anxiety, a work colleague that unloads too much on you, a difficult night of navigating 3-6 different drop off and pick up times.
I'm sure you've felt these sometimes too, and probably a couple of others I haven't included. I wish there was a way that I could make all of those anxieties in the pit of your tummy go away. And I can't wave that fairy god mother wand.
But what I can do is show you ways that you can grapple with these feelings, and choose, hopefully, a positive and a...